Do you feel low confidence towards girls ???????????????

One of my friends asked me he feels low confidence towards the girls he came across. He find it difficult to make his first move. However even if he gather some courage and start the conversation it gets to nowhere. This is the problem many guys come across specially the teenagers. And it is very important for the teenagers to get through these early crises on relations. This will help them build these confidences as early as possible.

                                Now let’s get back to this friend who is having this huge problem over girls. He decided to get this professional help, you know from all these advisers online. And he equally got the reward, now even more confused.

                                                                So he turns up to me for help, now every one of us know a friend in need is a friend indeed, doesn’t we. I analyze him and came to the following conclusion.

Now this got 2 parts, what he got and how you use them

·         He is not very attractive (very big problem).

·         He doesn’t has good command over the English (which is not a big problem at all given that we are in India )

·         He sometimes make first move but then don’t know how to keep her interested in him.

·         Always go for very attractive girl.

This is what I advised to him.

If he is not attractive then he could use other qualities, which he doesn’t have. But one thing every guy has and that is to talk and praise. Now this praising part really needs confidence and wit. But if you feel a bit of low, get her cell number. Today everyone desire free incoming call from opposite gender. You can say anything you want to without any presentation or gesture over a cell phone. I asked him not to go for very attractive girl at first even an average girl will do well first time. Indeed we don’t fall in love only once. And you never learn from one person. Like a tennis player we have to cover each part of the turf. Wit and humor are all there to make a girl feel secure and to get a feeling that you are not insane or bore. If she likes you, you don’t have to work hard on that. She will laugh at whatever crap you throw at her. But if the ball is in her court, I mean if she is not that interested in you than get ready to work hard. He asked me what if she already has a boyfriend. Here I am a bit of evil. Never back down break ups happens and when it occur she will need a shoulder, and who knows it yours turn.

For further reference I referred him this book Getting the Love You Want, you could get this book here

  He is following all these things now and let’s see what happens in future.