How to win people's heart............

How to win people’s heart? Easy make them laugh. Making people laugh is the best one can do for people around us for free. People will naturally incline towards you if they find you funny. Tell them funny incident with extra humor happens to you. Cracking a joke will also do.
                                              Everybody thinks they have a good sense of humor, but many never bother trying to improve it. A sense of humor is something that can be learned and developed over time. Take the time and effort to learn, and you'll soon find you have the skill to make others laugh. And the better you can become at that, the more smoothly your relationships will run.

Love is always patient

My dear girl friend is out of the state for learning purpose. For almost 1 year we haven't seen each other. But we are still on relation. relation only end when you impose restrictions on each other. It flourish when you give freedom to each other. This freedom shows that how much you two trust each other. As love is not noun but a verb. It is not a thing but a process. Love is always patient and kind.
It is never jealous.It does not take offense and is not resentful.Love is to love and give love unconditionally.
Your whole identity to me is like this warm summer air. I cant see it but I can feel it.

Saying NO to people

I never say never. That was me mean while ago. So what happened now? Have I started saying no to people. And what saying yes or no has to do in people’s life.

                                There was a time when I could manage time for everything, especially friends. It was not that difficult to manage and mingle with everyone. Now time has changed for me and so changed the priorities.

                Two week back one of my friend requested me to meet her. She needed me in her newly joined job. When she asked me I said yes without giving any second thought. In the first meeting I got late and it never happened. Then for some days owing to my tight schedule I couldn’t make it. That was enough to piss her off. And after some day she called me and told me that I am irresponsible and of no use. And I believe we are through now.

                                I could have turned the situation by turning down her request. Rather than appearing irresponsible and uncaring, I would have ended up being pragmatic and little bit of busy. It is not my problem only, but is the problem of many people. There are many people who find it hard to no.

                                

                                What ever be the reason they only end up burdening themselves. Some of us don’t want to appear selfish, by putting our personal requirement in priorities. Some fear losing the friend by turning their request down.

               

                          So what is the solution for this? It s really hard to say no so one should rather than saying no directly, could dodge the situation. We could ask for some time to ponder over the proposal and see if we could meet with the proposal. Or could say, I appreciate you that you think of me worth this stuff but I am a bit busy. All these things will show that you can do these things and your willingness to do, but you don’t actually have enough time to meet these commitments.  At least these things will save us from the embarrassment of not making it to the promise.

Do you feel low confidence towards girls ???????????????

One of my friends asked me he feels low confidence towards the girls he came across. He find it difficult to make his first move. However even if he gather some courage and start the conversation it gets to nowhere. This is the problem many guys come across specially the teenagers. And it is very important for the teenagers to get through these early crises on relations. This will help them build these confidences as early as possible.

                                Now let’s get back to this friend who is having this huge problem over girls. He decided to get this professional help, you know from all these advisers online. And he equally got the reward, now even more confused.

                                                                So he turns up to me for help, now every one of us know a friend in need is a friend indeed, doesn’t we. I analyze him and came to the following conclusion.

Now this got 2 parts, what he got and how you use them

·         He is not very attractive (very big problem).

·         He doesn’t has good command over the English (which is not a big problem at all given that we are in India )

·         He sometimes make first move but then don’t know how to keep her interested in him.

·         Always go for very attractive girl.

This is what I advised to him.

If he is not attractive then he could use other qualities, which he doesn’t have. But one thing every guy has and that is to talk and praise. Now this praising part really needs confidence and wit. But if you feel a bit of low, get her cell number. Today everyone desire free incoming call from opposite gender. You can say anything you want to without any presentation or gesture over a cell phone. I asked him not to go for very attractive girl at first even an average girl will do well first time. Indeed we don’t fall in love only once. And you never learn from one person. Like a tennis player we have to cover each part of the turf. Wit and humor are all there to make a girl feel secure and to get a feeling that you are not insane or bore. If she likes you, you don’t have to work hard on that. She will laugh at whatever crap you throw at her. But if the ball is in her court, I mean if she is not that interested in you than get ready to work hard. He asked me what if she already has a boyfriend. Here I am a bit of evil. Never back down break ups happens and when it occur she will need a shoulder, and who knows it yours turn.

For further reference I referred him this book Getting the Love You Want, you could get this book here

  He is following all these things now and let’s see what happens in future.